Each time I come across anything about suicide, it really does break my heart. Mental health challenges are taking us silently. They take our voices, our will, isolate us to a breaking point. The sadder thing is we only talk about them when someone loses their lives. You see posts of “the signs were there” but at the time no one cares, because it’s attention-seeking. It’s not an attitude problem, it’s not attention-seeking, there is a war going on and someone is crying for help, just listen.
Take the time to learn the changes in your family and friends. They used to be chatty, what made them stop? They used to care about birthdays but now they forget and don’t care about celebrating their own. It’s the little things that make the big things, so take note of those things. Most of the time they just want a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, a reminder of their worth and that they are loved.
I was once there, I wanted to die, ideas about going to swim at the beach when I can’t swim, ideas about jumping off bridges, thoughts of jumping onto oncoming traffic and sleeping pills, lab chemicals, but I didn’t act on them. Somehow I found a listening ear or two at the most critical moments, subtle reminders of my worthy, acknowledgements of the love they had for me, that’s how I got through to a place where it is hard, but I don’t want to die.
Be someone’s saviour today, just be a friend. Don’t wait for the time you can write, “I noted something had changed, I should have talked to you.” Now is the time. Check up on your friends and families, be kind, and while you are on it, check-up and be kind on you too. Smile at a stranger. Let’s not let mental challenges isolate us, that’s what makes them formidable.